That's the dispute of the day for Tracy and I. The first thing that caused us trouble today was that I didn't get in front of the computer until now to dig up job stuff. I have told her repeatedly that I want to do this from at least 8am, till 1 pm, that includes everything from searching online, to making calls and emails, everything. The afternoon is wide open.
Tracy's problem with me is that she needs the computer for some time each week too, so that she can do her homework for class, and she can't use it while I am on the 'puter.
This morning, I was going to do the computer stuff in the morning, but instead, all I get is a ton of requests to take care of Chloe downstairs, where I can't get anything done job-wise.
When I finally get the time to work on the computer today, she then tries to plan over another chunk of the afternoon, by asking if we can take Chloe to Zoo Days. I said that she could go do it without me, but she just won't unless I go too, for some dependent reasoning. I really want to go, and I want the whole family to do it together too, but the guilt of not doing the job stuff everyday will be worse. I told her that I need the afternoon to finish the job stuff, now that the morning has been wasted. She got very bitter and started to make me feel guilty. I tried to put into my perspective for her, pointing out that she would rather go to Zoo Days then me find a job. I asked her "why she would make me feel guilty about trying to find a job?" I think it is because she isn't getting her way, and like everyone in her family, they have have to assign the punishment on others when they don't get their way. Quite unfair if you ask me.
Her response to making me feel guilty was to let me know that "we will do our things in shifts, and never spend any time together because that obviously what I want."
Naturally with a statement like that, all that I get now is sneers, and no discussions from the wifey. That's problem resolution for ya.
It's always lose-lose... Women are never wrong...
